It’s not a quick decision. Ask anyone who fosters how they decided to become a foster parent, and they will talk to you about a journey. A journey filled with questions like: Will I get too attached? What will it feel like when my foster child leaves? These questions seem to be universal.
Recently we’ve come across several blog posts that go to the heart of the attachment questions by reframing the issue from the child’s perspective. Jason Johnson’s post movingly refers to shifting his thinking “away from what I stand to lose and towards what a child might stand to gain.”
In a post called Crash Course in Parenting, the author writes “I am going to cry if/when “my boys” go home, possibly for days or even weeks. . . . But I hope that we can have a positive impact on the children that make their way into our home and into our hearts. They have been through so much and any loss that I might endure is so small in comparison to their very great losses.”
In Massachusetts, there are thousands of young people in need of loving foster homes. They are waiting for safety, love and guidance. If you foster, will your foster child eventually leave you? In all likelihood, yes. Will it be hard? Yes. Will you have made a difference? Most definitely yes. These posts above remind us that fostering is not about the adults, it’s about the kids.
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